When you got married, you may have believed that you would be with your spouse for the rest of your life. You did not think that anything could diminish your love or affect your relationship to a point where you would feel the need to divorce. However, like many people who had these same ideas, you are now facing the end of your marriage.

The situation may have come about more unexpectedly than you thought. There was no adultery or constant fighting that made your relationship unbearable. Instead, you two may have simply grown apart and now feel that you would be better off starting different paths in life. In fact, divorce may seem like a bittersweet moment for you in many ways.

Is this feeling good or bad?

You may have concerns about not having any hard feelings toward your soon-to-be ex-spouse. You may think that you will end up taken advantage of or that you will not try hard enough to get what you want out of the divorce. However, being able to maintain a civil and amicable approach to your divorce with your future ex may actually be a good thing. Rather than having to go through drawn-out court proceedings during which you fight over everything, you may have the ability to come to terms together.

What should you consider?

If you do want to try to set down some terms before your divorce gets fully underway, some details you want to consider include the following:

  • How do you want to split your marital property?
  • What ideas do you have about child custody and child support?
  • Do either of you need or expect alimony?
  • How will you address the cost of health insurance for your children?
  • Do you plan to file your upcoming taxes jointly or separately? Who will claim the children as dependents?

Of course, these examples are only a few of the many details you may want to try to come to terms about regarding your divorce. Still, even if you and your ex can work together, remember that you need to consider your best interests and that the legal proceedings for divorce can be complex. As a result, you may want to enlist the help of an experienced North Carolina attorney who can guide you through the process and address any concerns you may have regarding your case.