Dealing with your ex after you split up isn’t easy, but it’s necessary if you share children. Some people are fortunate enough to have an ex they can easily co-parent with, despite the end of the romantic relationship.
If you have a contentious ex, you’ll likely have to find ways to cope with the toxicity they provide. These tips may make that a bit easier to do.
Focus on what the children need
Always focus on what the children need instead of what your ex is doing. This is particularly important if you attend joint events for your children. Your children deserve love from their parents, a stable environment and positive memories during their childhood, so do your best to make those possible.
Avoid emotional reactions
Some people who are contentious are just trying to get a reaction out of other people because it makes them feel powerful. Avoiding emotional reactions when you’re dealing with your ex may be beneficial because they won’t get that power.
Document everything
Keeping documentation of everything that has to do with your ex or the children is likely a good idea. This can help you to provide proof of things that your ex may call into question.
It’s a good idea to have a comprehensive parenting plan if you have a contentious ex. This provides both parties with clear guidelines to follow regarding the children. Working with someone familiar with these matters may be beneficial when you’re getting this document set up in a way that’s best for your children.
