As a divorcing parent, you’ll likely have a large list of things you want to explain to your children when the time is right. It can take many conversations to cover everything you want to tell them, or they want to ask you.
One thing you might not think of telling them is that the divorce is not their fault. The thought that they would feel guilty has likely never crossed your mind. However, if you do not address the issue promptly, it could make the situation even more challenging for them. Here is why.
Young children are at the center of their world
Research has shown that young children, in particular, have a self-centered view of the world. All they have to do is cry or smile, and you and perhaps various others would give them your attention. While children eventually learn that the world does not actually revolve around them, it can take time for them to fully understand this.
They can’t always differentiate between reality and fantasy
Adults often fail to grasp just how much children can sometimes struggle to differentiate between fact and fiction. It’s why children my swear that what they are telling you is true, even though you know it cannot be. Just as they convince themselves that the dragons they are fighting are real, they can convince themselves that something they did caused their parents to split up.
Having both parents tell a child that they love them and that the divorce is not their fault can provide essential reassurance at a difficult time. Having sound legal guidance can help a parent better focus on what’s best for their child.
